Anxiety and depression; state versus illness

The Happy Mind Movement point of difference; anxiety and depression are states and not illnesses is often met with anger and aggression by those who believe they have an illness.

In this blog and video today I offer you a different perspective which demonstrates how you create anxiety and depression and how to set yourself free.

Anxiety and depression are emotions; not illnesses and emotions are driven by patterns that determine our state in any given moment.

The three primary patterns that drive emotion and create states are:

Patterns of Physiology – how you use your physical body, such as breath, posture, movement, exercise and what you put into your body in the way of food, alcohol and drugs.

Patterns of Focus – whatever you focus on, you will feel. What you focus on depends on your values, your rules for fulfilling those values and your global beliefs.

Patterns of Language/Meaning – as soon as we put words to an experience, it changes the meaning we give it. The words we put to an experience have to do with the questions we habitually ask ourselves, the metaphors we habitually use, and the incantations we use on ourselves, such as “I am fearful” or “I am courageous”.

When a person is in a state of anxiety or depression, they invariably have a posture that is slumped, shoulders rolled forward, head tilted forward and down, eyes looking down and shallow breathing. They are focused on the problem, and their language is such that it exacerbates and energises the problem.

A happy, confident person, on the other hand, stands tall, chest open, shoulders back, head up, eyes looking forward and deep breathing. They are focused on the solution, and their language is such that it gives energy and momentum to solution based thinking.

We can change our emotional patterns at any time by applying the five daily rituals taught in the Happy Mind Movement Programs.

The Five daily rituals to change patterns of physiology, focus, language and meaning are

  1. Diet – Eliminate simple carbohydrates wheat, gluten and sugar and replace them with lean protein, fresh fruit and vegetables and nuts and seeds to stabilise blood sugar levels, serotonin levels and mood.
  2. Exercise daily to raise serotonin levels and balance cortisol levels.
  3. Eliminate stimulants such as alcohol, drugs and caffeine to balance brain chemistry.
  4. Daily meditation and breath work to calm the mind and nervous system
  5. Personal development to find out who you are, where you want to go and how to get there.

In my book The Happy Mind Movement; wake up, step up  and own it, I refer to your mind as a two-drawer filing cabinet. The top drawer being your conscious mind and the bottom drawer being your unconscious mind. Your bottom drawer is where you store limiting beliefs, old values systems, the ‘shoulds’, ‘woulds’ and ‘coulds’ of others and anything else you picked up throughout your imprint, modelling and socialising periods. The information stored in this bottom drawer becomes your internal program and drives all your behaviour.

Between the ages of birth to seven, which is our ‘imprint period’, we are little sponges who soak up and imprint everything that is going on in our environment at an unconscious level. The conscious mind, the decision-making mind is not yet developed, and the vulnerable and very open unconscious mind is ready to receive and believe whatever is delivered to it. And it does!

As adults, we continually make decisions in our conscious mind, which then becomes our truth and what we think and say to ourselves. This information is then automatically accepted by the unconscious mind, no questions asked. As you can see from this information, it is super important to be very aware of the language you use with your children and even more importantly the language you use with yourself

Some of the limiting beliefs you may have picked up along the way and still have in your bottom drawer could be:

  • I am not good enough.
  • No one loves me.
  • There is no such thing as a free lunch.
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees.
  • I am depressed; it is in my genes.
  • I am an emotional eater.
  • My whole family is overweight.
  • All communication leads to conflict.
  • Men only want one thing.
  • Life is tough.

Once we have these beliefs in place, the unconscious mind will do whatever it can to prove these beliefs worthy or right, which is why and how we create more of what does not serve us in our lives and continue to feel anxious, depressed and miserable.

The most powerful and efficient way to access the unconscious mind and clean out the bottom drawer is through Timeline Therapy; a process conducted in one-on-one coaching.  This is a gentle process using a light meditation to take the client back along their timeline to the very first event where they made the decision that no longer serves them. It is from this space that the client is disassociated from the event, can look at it through adult eyes and see the event for what it really is. The client then has the opportunity to gain a new understanding of the event and a positive learning, and let the limiting belief go.

In the Happy Mind Online Coaching Program, I deliver a different but also very powerful technique to identify your limiting beliefs, create enough pain around them to want let them go and replace them with new empowering beliefs to create a new reality.

Once you have implemented the five daily rituals and cleaned out the bottom draw of your mind to change your emotional patterns you will be well on your way to living a life free on anxiety and depression.

Please leave your feedback in the comments below; I would love to hear what you think.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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