Why we stay stuck in our story from the past

If you knew that letting go of your story from the past would set you free emotionally, why wouldn’t just do it?

Why wouldn’t you just let the story go?

This video will explain why we can’t/won’t let our stories from the past go.

 

Human Needs Psychology Explained

Human needs psychology states we all have six basic human needs that we can fulfil in a positive way to lasting happiness or fulfil in a negative way keeping us stuck in destructive behavioural patterns, addictive behaviours and the victim mentality.

The Six Human Needs Explained

CERTAINTY – We need certainty that we can be comfortable – to have pleasure and avoid pain. We want to feel safe in our environment and our relationships and feel secure and certain about the future. What constitutes certainty varies for each individual. One person may feel certain living in a shelter and collecting social security, and another person may only feel certain if they are earning a six figure salary.

UNCERTAINTY/VARIETY – We need variety and challenges that exercise our emotional and physical range.  Our bodies, our minds, our emotional well-being all require uncertainty, exercise, suspense, variety and surprise. The excitement that comes from uncertainty and variety is necessary to feel alive. For some, variety may be satisfied by watching TV or a movie and someone else may need to jump out of a plane to have this need fulfilled.

SIGNIFICANCE – We all need to feel special, important, needed and wanted. Significance comes from comparing ourselves to others. In our quest for significance we are always involved in hierarchical pecking orders, checking out who is superior or inferior to us. Someone who is significance driven will need to feel they are number one and respected at all times, which can make it difficult for them to have healthy relationships. We can feel significant by achieving great things or destroying ourselves and others.

CONNECTION/LOVE – We all need to feel connected and loved by other human beings.  At some level everyone strives for and hopes for love.  This connection can be with a romantic partner, friends, family, the community or the workplace. We can connect in a positive, loving friendly manner, or we can also connect at a very high level through conflict.

The final two needs are growth and contribution, the needs of the spirit, and are essential for human fulfilment. When our needs for love, growth and contribution are satisfied, they tend to encompass all of our needs.

GROWTH – Everything is either growing or dying.  We need to constantly develop emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. 

CONTRIBUTION – We all desire to go beyond our own needs and give to others. Everything in the universe contributes beyond itself or is eliminated

 

 

 

 

 

 

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